Our Making Mindful Magic social media often focuses on encouraging a slower, calmer version of life; it is part of who we are and why we do what we do. Sometimes that can be easier said than done. This blog post and its conclusion next week, will look at a very practical way to include the slow and calm in everyday life, be it in the family home or in the classroom; it works well for both situations.
If being slower and calmer is one of our goals, then it makes sense to create a place of retreat for those times when we feel stressed from all the activity and busyness around us or just to acknowledge that being calm and slow is a goal in our lives so we make a purposeful place to experience it on a regular basis. As a parent or teacher we provide powerful role-modelling if we share with our children our own priorities by setting this example.
This is different to being aware that we need to slow down and calm down in general life but by creating this space and feeling the peacefulness it brings, then we can use the feelings we found there to re-create it more often wherever we are. The temptation too is to use this space with our children as somehow a replacement for the ‘naughty corner’ where we ask our children to repent for or think about a ‘wrong-doing’. This is definitely not what we are creating here – it is a positive space where we can engage with ourselves, as only being by ourselves in quiet and solitude can offer. It can be used as a reward however and I use my own ‘Peaceful Place’ often like that – I’ll complete a tedious task and then reward myself with some time just for me in my ‘Peaceful Place’. How wonderful if we can create a space so inviting that it becomes a real drawcard in their lives!
This is also an excellent experience to work collaboratively with your children, they are amazingly creative and can connect with what brings them peace if given the opportunity. I call my space my ‘Peaceful Place’ but it can of course be called anything and children will creatively come up with a name that suits them. We can make it clear that this is a space that we use to make us feel calm and one that we can design ourselves, filling it with items that make us feel calm, that encourage us to be quiet and reflective.
Natural introverts, like me, will most likely be easily drawn there but it is just as important, possibly more so, for extroverts to seek and accept some alone time and space. That is one of the reasons it is important for children to feel they own the space and this will come more easily if they have created it, at least partially, themselves!
Next week’s blog post will look at things to consider when creating your ‘Peaceful Place’ and I look forward to completing our creation. In the meantime bring up the topic and talk about why it’s being created and see what names they find.